The Secrets Women Keep

   First off, I love women and what they do for the world. They have abilities that men will never achieve; like it or not. I have learned so much through the years that has amazed me and confused me at the same time. This is a very complex topic that I do not pretend to have all the answers to. I believe that women will be man's greatest challenge, and that we will never crack the code.
   My experience of getting answers and "secrets" has been somewhat successful, but falls well short of a thorough understanding. My wife has let me in on some things along the way that have led me to a few conclusions. I have had the pleasure and ease of mind that can only come from a loyal and sacred relationship, so I am sure that there are no big surprises lurking under the surface. What I have learned is that women possess the ability to go to their grave, having never told a soul about some of the darkest periods in their lives. How do they do it?
   This knowledge kind of makes a man feel like there is a sound reason to question the thinking that men are the stronger, more effective sex. Sure we are more prominent -by the numbers and the noise- in politics, high level management, leadership, supervision, and administration, but that doesn't cancel out the fact that ther are millions of capeable women who are either behind great men, or could do at least as well if not better in all of these positions that are historically filled by men.
   Women also have the ability to extract the best parts of their mate; most of the time we are oblivious that she had anything to do with our success. They do this through an instinctive ability that men do not have. We assume that we are in charge, and the lady is just a sounding board for our successes and complaints. What would the world look like if men were able to love a woman for who she is instead of our perceptions, to understand, to make her feel like an individual and an equal. Simply noticing her individuality and looking at her with an open ear instead of an open mouth. Look at her from across the room at a social function and view her as a guest at the party and not your trophy that should stick close to you for your fear and insecurity of the better man.
   There is always one better than you, stronger than you, smarter than you. Actually, there are many who have the skill to meet a woman's needs. If that isn't enough to make you think; consider this. How many things do you not know? What if you lack the basic ability to listen? What if the communication is one-sided, and you have no good idea what's going on with her? Will you pry until she spills it, or will you love her to the point that she wants to be open with you?
   At the end of the day, know that you can do better. If men are the leaders, then lead your relationship in the right direction. Lead your beautiful wife to security so she can impact the world along side you. Make her know that you will never lock her up. Most importantly, quit thinking you are the boss and accept her as your best friend. If you do, the rest will come naturally.